![]() ![]() ![]() 20 weeks seems a little high to me as I’ve only ever heard of waiting til past the first trimester since that’s when a problem is most likely to happen. As for social media, we are planning on posting an ultrasound picture after the first trimester especially since that’s the only way we keep in touch with more distant relatives and friends. We just had our viability scan at about 7 weeks and after the all clear that baby was in the right place and measuring well we were so excited to tell our dads and grandparents. We figured they would provide the same support they gave through our ttc journey if the worst should happen and they were all anxiously waiting for the good news. We told our moms and siblings right away since they knew we were ttc all along. I put a status about it on Facebook after the 20-week scan, but honestly by then everyone that we communicate with at least semi-regularly already knew. It gradually spread around at work from that, I didn’t go out of my way to let everyone know directly since I had only been working there for a few months and didn’t really know people that well back then. Oh and I told my boss just a few days after I had told everyone else, just to let him know. Nothing super exciting! We gave permission to the people we told to tell anyone they felt like since after the 12 week point we did not consider it a secret anymore. I sent letters to my close friends in the UK and told my close friends in Iceland at another dinner. We told my family over the phone because they live in a different country, and his family at a family dinner. The second pregnancy (our daughter) we told our families and friends after the 12-week scan showed everything was going perfectly. This is a totally personal issue, but those were my feelings. I was only ready to tell my mother in the immediate aftermath. ![]() I can only imagine having told a whole group and having to tell them all, to say it over and over again just after it had happened. But I was so relieved that I didn’t have to talk to anyone about it that I didn’t want to and that I could pick the exact time I felt ready to do so (nobody asking about how the pregnancy was going). I did tell my mum about the miscarriage the day after it happened, and have since told a few other people. Again, nothing clever, just sharing the news.įor a few friends who were struggling with infertility, I emailed them the news before we announced it at large so that they could have the space and privacy to react however they needed to.įor the first pregnancy I was a little tempted to tell ‘early’, but was glad we didn’t because it ended in miscarriage. For everyone else, my husband put an announcement on Facebook. We n’t do anything clever, just told people. But consider if you would end the pregnancy if the baby had some abnormality, would you want to share that information?įor our close family and friends, we just called or told them in person, depending on geography. We knew that we would not terminate the pregnancy no matter what, so this didn’t matter to us. I wanted to wait that long so that we would have done the anatomy scan and could say, “Hey, we’re having a baby, its a boy, his name is Solomon.” I don’t know, I guess I wanted to not drag it out?īut I have friends who waited that long to share bc they wanted to make sure the baby was completely healthy first. We waited till 10 weeks, after we heard his heartbeat, to tell our closest friends and family (the ones we would tell about a miscarriage.) I wanted to wait till at least 20 weeks to tell everyone else, but my husband worked me down to 14 weeks. I’ve read about this type experience in one of my baby books. On a side note, I had an business aquaintance randomly ask when we were planning on having kids and seemed to have some secret knowledge that I was pregnant, like she was winking and trying to get me to tell her. My other questions are: When did you announce and to whom? My nurse friend says to to wait until at least 20 weeks, that seems so long! I would also like to send out actual paper pregnancy announcements before I announce on social media, does this seem too snooty? My husband really wants to tell his parents, but I’d like to wait a little longer. I figured even if I miscarry, I would want their support. (from date of conception, not last period) I have told my two closest friends, one is a nurse and the other is a new mom. I am currently 3 weeks & 5 days pregnant. I know ‘typical’ time to announce a pregnancy is the end of the first trimester. ![]()
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